Many clients come in to our office and are shocked that they may have to pay child support and/or spousal support. Traditionally, Mothers were stay-at-home moms and made little to no income. Therefore, they would receive both child support, a monetary contribution towards supporting the children, and spousal support, a monetary contribution that enables the individual to “get back on their feet” or “establishes a similar kind of lifestyle in the receiving party’s home.” However, these days, more and more women are the ones having to pay child support and/or spousal support. In Ohio, there are 14 different factors that a Court will consider when awarding spousal support. Child support on the other hand, is a more mathematical calculation. However, there are different factors that do effect child support, like parenting time and each parties’ income. Just because you have a lower amount of income does not mean that you will automatically get child support. In contrast, if you have a lower amount of income and a relatively long marriage, you will likely get some award of spousal support. We understand that clients do not like the prospect of having to pay child support and/or spousal support to their ex-spouse. Most people can come to grips with the fact that child support is meant for your children and is supposed to help your ex-spouse support your children and their lifestyle financially. However, most people cannot wrap their minds around paying spousal support. Courts like to frame it this way: If you are supporting your ex-spouse, by helping them establish and support their own separate home for your children, you are inherently also helping your children. Your children look at themselves as a part of both their Mother and Father. If you are willfully helping your ex-spouse via spousal support, you are also helping your children. They will view that support as a form of love and will appreciate you for it.